June 26, 2020 01:30 PM | by The Fustany Team
How to Handle and Maintain a Long-Distance Relationship
Long distance sucks! Then again, life is unfair! There are some things in life where you kind of need to take the 'it is what it is' approach, accept the situation and handle it like a boss. Long distance relationships are definitely one of those situations. Don't get me wrong, if you are in a long-distance relationship, you have earned the right to mope a little, and miss each other endlessly. However, there are tips to help you in maintaining a long-distance relationship. So here is a little guide of tips and no no's when it comes to handling long-distance relationships.
The best tips to make long distance relationships work:
1. Be present
Exert an effort to be present throughout each other's day, BUT do not over-do it. You also want to give each other some space when you need it and then have the time you dedicate to each other be special, where you're both present.
2. Surprise trips
Surprise each other with trips. Everyone loves surprises, and going the extra mile says a lot about how much you love and appreciate each other.
3. Schedule meet ups
While surprises are great, try to include time in your schedules, in which you see each other at least once in a while. Having that face to face concoction is very important for your relationship, and will lessen the strain on it. The monthly trips are like giving your long distance a break, it is healthy for the relationship.
4. The internet perks
Use the internet wisely. Thank God for flower delivery services around the world, and for free shipping. Remember each other's birthday, anniversaries, etc. by sending them gifts.
5. Trust each other
Which brings me to my next point; trust. The only way a long distance relationship can work is by having blind-folded trust. Do not constantly interrogated each other: Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with? Don't be a burden on each other, where you would rather leave your phone at home than taking it and having to answer questions. Be for each other the person who they can't wait to get home to call and talk about their day.
6. Understand the misunderstandings
Handle fights as delicately as possible. The thing about long distance is that a lot of the time your communication is through messages, which leaves a lot of room for misunderstandings. Try to keep an open-mind, at least, until you get the chance to discuss whatever is bothering you on Skype or FaceTime.
7. Don't drag on arguments
Never ever let an argument prolong for days. You already do not see each other regularly, you cannot afford to be giving one another the silent treatment for days. Think about it, the more time you go without acknowledging one another, the easier it will be to grow apart.
8. Don't let other people get to you
Do not listen to other people's points of view. Your relationship is only for you to judge, the both of you. Only you and your partner can tell if long distance is working between you. So block out the, 'it will never work,' 'out of sight out mind' comments.
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