April 28, 2014 12:00 AM | by The Fustany Team
How to Handle Long Distance Relationships
Long distance sucks! Then again, life is unfair! There are some things in life where you kind of need to take the 'it is what it is' approach, accept the situation and handle it like a boss. Long distance relationships are definitely one of those situations. Don't get me wrong, if you are in a long-distance relationship, you have earned the right to mope a little, and miss your man endlessly. However, you do not have the right to sit and mope for days, and just sit by your phone waiting for the next text or phone call. So here is a little guide of tips and no no's when it comes to handling your long-distance relationship.
1. Exert an effort to be present throughout each other's day, BUT do not over-do it. You don't want to be the woman who is nagging her man and sending him five text messages, one after the other.
2. Surprise each other with trips. Everyone loves surprises, and going the extra mile says a lot about how much you love and appreciate your man.
3. While surprises are great, try to include time in your schedules, in which you see each other at least once in a while. Having that face to face concoction is very important for your relationship, and will lessen the strain on it. The monthly trips are like giving your long distance a break, it is healthy for the relationship.
4. Use the internet wisely. Thank God for flower delivery services around the world, and for free shipping. Remember each other's birthday, anniversaries, etc. by sending them gifts. However, do not use the internet to stalk his latest Facebook posts, check his last seen on the WhatsApp, etc. That is not healthy at all.
5. Which brings me to my next point; trust. The only way a long distance relationship can work is by having blind-folded trust. Do not be the woman who is constantly interrogating her man: Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with? Don't make him feel like you are a burden, where he would rather leave his phone at home than taking it and having to answer your questions. Be the person who he can't wait to get home to call and tell you about his day.
6. Handle fights as delicately as possible. The thing about long distance is that a lot of the time your communication is through messages, which leaves a lot of room for misunderstandings. Try to keep an open-mind, at least until you get the chance to discuss whatever is bothering you on Skype or Facetime.
7. Never ever let an argument prolong for days. You already do not see each other regularly, you cannot afford to be giving one another the silent treatment for days. Think about it, the more time you go without acknowledging one another, the easier it will be to grow apart.
8. Do not listen to other people's points of view. Your relationship is only for you to judge, the both of you. Only you and your partner can tell if long distance is working between you. So block out the, 'it will never work,' 'out of sight out mind' comments.