Hello again, beautiful ladies!
It is always good to be amongst
you, even though we are not directly interacting. But I noticed that
some of you followed me on Instagram after my last article on Fustany,
which gives it all a degree of depth.
Alright then, let’s get to
our core topic. Men are a lot simpler than you probably think. We do not
need to go around in circles to tell you something, we do not need to
give or receive hints to understand. On the other hand, women are
usually more philosophical in their approach to things. I believe that
these differences in approaches are the roots of all evil. All love is
lost in misunderstanding. Anyway, below are some tips to prevent your
man from walking away.
1. STOP THE DRAMA!
I wrote this one in
caps on purpose. I guess that as a man myself, I will never understand
why ladies like to be over dramatic about things. Life should be a lot
simpler than that. We both want to be happy, and we both want to make
each other happy. Why do you have to complicate things and create
stories? I’m not talking about crying, because no man should ever make a
woman cry, I’m talking about the unnecessary change of plot when you’re
not getting what you want. You know what I’m talking about.
2. Prevent things from being “the same.”
This
one is not very easy because psychologically, most women like to be
similar, while most men like to be different from everyone else. (This
does not apply to fashion of course, because comparing two women wearing
the same dress with two men wearing the same suit automatically throws
my theory down the drain!) I’m talking about how most women want to go
to certain places, “just like other couples do.” Or how they want to fit
in. While us men, we were made to do our own thing. So please please,
make us feel that there is a little challenge in things we do. Please please break the routine.
3. Don’t get in the way when it comes to boys’ time.
We’re
always with you. We love you. You are everything to us. But we like to have our own time with the boys every now and then. Don’t ask why, we
just like these outings where there are less hormones sometimes.
4. Don’t turn the table on him.
Every
time we have a conversation and you try to turn things on us, we cringe
a little. “Did you mean to tell me I’m fat?” No baby, even if I think
you’re fat, you’re the most beautiful person to me. Stop it. Just stop
it.
5. Never, ever lie.
We will probably get over it if we
love you, but men are the best lie detectors. We will not make a big
fuss about it, though. But when you lie, you are no longer the purest,
and coolest person we know. And when you lose this spot, trust me it’s
not easy getting it back.
6. Don’t always criticize everything.
A
man likes it when someone he loves gives him comments, that’s for sure.
But if you always have negative comments about everything he does,
that’s a major turn off. I mean about the shoes he got (who cares!) and
the way he talked to this person (so?) or the way he wrote that sentence
with no structure (are you kidding me?) Please give us some space
to be ourselves with no criticism. Negativity is a total no, no.
7. Don’t test us.
When
a serious man goes into a relationship, we are either all in, or not at
all. Please do not test our limits. Please do not try to trick us to
discover whether we like you or not. As long as we’re together, we
probably absolutely love you. Some men do not know how to express love
in a way that all ladies understand, but we love you for sure if we’re
still around. So why test us? I don’t like to always be watched in my
every move, do you?
8. Don’t make it all about us.
We loved
you when you were alone. But now your whole life revolves around one
person; me. Men hate that. Yes, we like to feel super important. But we
like it a lot more when you strike a good balance between giving your
man a large degree of importance, while having your own time doing your
own things or being with your own friends.
9. Be independent, but not too much.
Every
man likes a good ego boost. Every man wants to feel needed by his
significant other. Every man really needs to have a sense of importance
in your life. For me, I love to be with an independent lady; I look up
to her, I admire her, and I am proud of her. But I also like it when she
needs me to do things for her. I like it when she needs my advice. I
love it when she depends on me.
10. Don’t ever make us feel that there are other alternatives.
If
there are other alternatives, why are we here? Why are we putting
ourselves in this position? And believe me, it is a “position” to be put
in. When we feel compared, some of us do not function normally, which
might not be a good thing all the time.
The tips I just discussed
above are all general; they apply to almost any Middle-Eastern man
(maybe even any man at all!) But you will find your own balance in your
own relationship. Once you start finding a spot that you are both
comfortable in, start building on it. If you have a solid foundation,
why would any man walk away?
How to Keep a Man from Walking Away
Mohamed El-Dib
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Mohamed El Dib is a creative, a designer, an entrepreneur, and he calls himself "the future world's coolest CEO"! Born in the UK, he moved to Alexandria, Egypt, for school and then Cairo to join the A...
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