While being a mother is a very tough and demanding job, I have a strong
belief that we can always help ourselves be better, feel better and do
better if we just train our minds to survive the daily challenges.
Today, I am not sharing a post as usual, but rather quick everyday tips
that I have learned the hard way from my 3 years motherhood experience,
and I promise you that your lives can change if you take them seriously,
and it will get much better if you actually implement them. Here are
quick everyday tips from a very busy mum...
1. Planning is the key
to have a successful house.
I am not saying that I am that successful,
but planning helps me get around things. Planning your house cleaning,
planning your week’s food menu, planning your outings, your kids’ doctor
visits, your “me-time.” It is of utmost importance to deal with your
house as if it is a project. Become a fan of to-do-lists. I have a small
magnetic white board on the fridge for the important dates and house
chores. I have a specific notebook for all my personal/house notes.
2.
Start loving the pre-cooked food.
For mothers who want to have freshly
cooked food every day at home, sometimes it becomes impossible to make it happen. What I started to do and find as a helpful
tool, is that I plan over the weekend what I would like to cook for the entire week. Accordingly, I see which of these dishes can be prepared and
stored in the fridge to rescue me when I get super busy over the week
days. Always have cleaned marinated poultry ready in the fridge, because
this is a savior at any given day. Will post easy ideas later for quick
dishes.
3. Remember the old saying “Do not postpone today’s
chores till tomorrow”?
This is another tool for a happy home. If you
don’t want to see the laundry piling up or the kitchen basin flooding
with dirty dishes, learn to be efficient. Many mothers I know have the
dishwasher at home as an accessory in their kitchens. Use it more often
so you never run out of dishes and always have a neat-looking kitchen.
Doing small quantities of everything is much easier.
4. Take care
of yourself.
I am a mother of twin babies and having time for myself is a challenge which I often fail to accomplish. But when I do it, it
really makes me feel alive and fresh which positively affects me and my
relation with my kids. Take some time off every new and then.
Leave the kids with your hubby or mother or a trusted relative and go
shopping. Learn something new. Revive an old hobby. Don’t feel guilty
doing that. It is for the better of your house and family.
5.
Lower your expectations, don’t be a tough judge upon yourself.
It is
impossible that everything will be exactly the same after the kids
(especially in the case of twins). You can’t have the time for
everything like before. Prioritizing is the solution when you feel over
whelmed. Always put priorities, determine what is more important and divide the
major tasks across the week days, so over the weekend you find everything
in place.
6. Never look at your babies as a burden, but rather a
joy.
I came to know and meet people in my life who suffered until they
got blessed with a baby. And I know other people who spent years trying and
still don’t have one. So appreciate the blessing and treat them as such.
Have fun with them; playing with the kids can take off your shoulder
the most pressuring life problems. I spent the first year after I gave
birth only focusing on the tasks of feeding and showering, etc. but only
when I stopped behaving like that, I began to enjoy my twins more.