You might have heard of the painter Louis Wain. He became famous because of how he tried to heal his wife from cancer. He noticed her deep love for cats after he gifted her Peter before she got sick. He then began painting her cats, which helped her cope with the pain. We were really moved by this story and we think it showed everyone a glimpse of how a man can help his wife through breast cancer or even how women can help their husbands. We know a lot of breast cancer patients’ husbands who don't know what to do when their wives are diagnosed with breast cancer. They struggle with the loss of words and not being able to deal with difficult situations. We understand that it is really hard. However, maybe some of these 7 tips can help you cope and reach your aim at supporting your wife through her breast cancer journey.
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1. Understand Her Pain and Constant Fatigue
This is one of the hardest things to go through on an emotional and physical level. Breast cancer patients or even breast cancer survivors go through a lot of pain and the smallest flight of stairs can be exhausting for her. So, it is better to accommodate things to make her life easier and be there for physical support, even if it is to carry her when she's in pain and needs to rest.
2. Stay Positive All The Time
The doctor will probably use a lot of medical terms describing what she will be going through. It is best to steer clear of these terms and avoid emphasizing on terms like depression, fatigue, or in general saying "you look tired". Try to be the person she goes to for a more positive boost instead of having her feel even more tired and upset about what she's going through.
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3. Don’t Feel Guilty
It is completely normal to feel hurt and sad that you feel helpless and that there's nothing you can do for her except be by her side, silently. Try not to feel guilty and just try to comfort her, even by simply reminiscing about funny moments or telling her about your day. Just tell her anything to distract her from the pain.
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Whether she's a cancer patient or survivor, it is essential to make her feel wanted and satisfy her needs. Be wary that she might be feeling self conscious around you, so make sure you remind her that she's sexy and make her feel sexy. If she's unable to have sex, you can make sure she gets sexually satisfied by trying out different sexual things that won't require a lot of physical effort.
Your kids are smart. They would sense that something is wrong with their mom. They may also notice how sad the general atmosphere is. There is no need to hide the facts from them; however, try not to make them scared or feel anxious. Try to keep a positive energy around your home. Moreover, don't forget to inform their school so they can understand any lag in their performance.
6. Get Creative
Even though she may be surrounded by loved ones most of the time, she still needs you the most. So, talk to her, take her out to dinner, or get creative with your romantic dates, even if it is with the simplest ways. Those little things will affect her happiness and help her get better.
7. Does She Love Work and Her Job?
Some breast cancer patients experience prolonged fatigue and exhaustion after a chemotherapy session that may take weeks. However, others start to feel better after 2-3 days. So, if your wife loves her job and it brings her a lot of joy and positive energy, support and motivate her to go back to work when she wants to. This will also really help her to feel stronger and not as sick or weak.
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