A Relationship can confuse you sometimes. You and your partner may feel you need a lot of togetherness, and at some other times, you may need a space to grow. Knowing how to give space in a relationship and stay together is a very important thing that every couple should learn. So, if your partner says “I need space” don't panic as love needs this to grow, and that is why you have to continue reading this article to know how to give time to your partner without losing him.
Note: If you are the one who wants space, then share this article with your partner.
Why it is important to give space in a relationship?
The most precious moments of our lives are the ones we’ve shared with someone special. You'll find that some of your happiest memories usually involve a loved one. As life is always beautiful if you have a special and loved one to share it with. However, too much closure can ruin a perfect relationship. To Keep a relationship alive; it is important to have your own individual memories and your special moments just as much as the memories and special moments that you would have with your partner. When you experience things separately that will absolutely make you relish your togetherness more and keep your relationship exciting and fresh.
How to give space in a relationship?
To have a healthy relationship, both you and your partner need to understand how to give the appropriate time to each other. People differ as some would say out loud “I want to have time alone” and this is normal don't take it as a rejection. However, other partners would be screaming for space, but they don't mention it. Either way you got to know how to manage this, and don’t worry, it isn’t as hard as you might think.
Now It's Time to Give Space…
Texting may be the least good thing for any relationship. In the begging, it could be fun as it is a quick way to get to know your partner by messaging them. But when you already know each other, it is better to text if you only can't reach your partner and you want to inform him of an important thing, and when they are ready, they will reach out to you. Don’t try to insert yourself into their day by force, just let them have their space.
Try not to ask questions all the time
If you feel as if they need space, you may probably feel like something is wrong, and you will realize something is changing. That could push you to ask them questions as to what made them change, but until they are ready to let you in, they will not answer you. They might not know what they want or feel. All the questions will make them shut down and shut you out and of course, this is what you don’t want. So, leave them until they are ready to tell you how they feel.
Make it clear about giving them space
Make sure to tell your partner that you feel they need space and that this is what you are doing. Make it clear that you are backing off for a reason; they might misunderstand why you are cooling off and think this is what you want. Giving them space is great if you let them know that they have it, and not that you are pissed. Otherwise, this will make them appreciate your effort for working on a relationship to be better.
Focus on yourself
Instead of worrying about giving your partner space and losing them, take time apart to focus on yourself and what you want out of your relationship. Try to do the things you gave up since you started your relationship. You might find yourself likewise needing space and time to do your own things. Being too clingy to your partner will make you lose yourself. That is why you have to give time to yourself too.
Reconnect with friends
Start giving time to your friends, they miss you. Just don’t pick the group that keeps nagging and crying over their loved ones; choose a company where you can have fun and do some activities together. It's better not to think of your partner while giving them space and live your life to its fullest.
Stay away from social media for a while
If you want to be able to give your partner space, it is about time to get off of social media. This will for sure help you not to create scenarios in your mind. Staying on social media will keep looking for what your partner is doing, and what he is thinking of. However, this is not what you need at this period as you don’t need the additional anxiety of stalking his life minute by minute. Also, try to leave your phone behind as the constant reminder that it isn’t ringing, and you aren’t getting any messages from him isn’t doing your brain any good, so leave it and spend your time doing what you love.
It is okay to love spending time with your loved one, but as mentioned, sometimes too much of a good thing isn’t a great thing. So, knowing how to give space in a relationship will totally help you balance your time together with your partner and your own individuality.
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