Do These Things Before Confessing Your Love to Your Best Friend
Mariam Youssef
1/12/23, 6:00 PM

If you’re into cinema and movies, you probably know that people falling for their best friends isn’t uncommon. Most of the time, we find ourselves rooting for them to have mutual feelings and become a dreamy couple. However, in real life, when you fall in love with your best friend, things may not be as smooth or romantic as you would think. The idea of you losing him as your friend is the worst thing ever, which may make you go crazy over whether or not you should tell him. Nonetheless, if you decided to confess your feelings, we recommend you to do these things before telling your best friend that you’re in love with him.

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Make sure what you’re feeling is real love

When we’re close to somebody, be it a friend, parent, or sibling, we tend to get overly protective, which may mistakenly make us believe that we own this person. When it comes to your best friend, it is normal to feel this way and even feel jealous when he talks to other girls. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re in love with him. In any case, here's what to do now: Think to yourself, "How would I know this is romantic love? Is the reward from telling him bigger than the risk of losing him?"

Be honest with yourself

Being honest with your feelings will make this step a lot easier for you. Ask yourself whether you're looking for attention or you're truly in love with your best friend. Can you see him as a romantic partner? If the picture of you being your best friend's girlfriend makes you uncomfortable, abort the mission immediately.

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Look for signs from his side

We'd think it's worth a try if you've noticed any signs that suggest he might be interested in more than simply friendship. It's probably not a good idea if, however, you suspect that your confession might simply throw him off guard and put him in a difficult spot, and the odds may not be in your favor as he might not be feeling the same.

Take time to evaluate things

The last thing you want to do when it comes to confessing your love to your best friend is to be impulsive. This feeling that you may think is “true love” may in fact result from a harsh breakup you just went through or the need to be with someone who understands and appreciates you. Unconditional and true friendship is hard to find and so is true love. If you happen to find both in the same person, you’re lucky! However, having only unconditional friendship is not a bad deal. While it’s essential to follow your heart, it’s better to take your brain with you.

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Be ready to face the consequences

Confessing your love to your best friend can result in two things: either he will tell you that he feels the same and you’ll end up being a cute couple or he’ll simply indicate that he doesn’t feel the same way. While we all hope for the first reaction, it is not guaranteed that you’ll get it. That’s why you need to prepare yourself for what’s coming because once he knows that you have feelings for him, things will probably get awkward and your friendship won’t be the same. Moreover, it is wise to prepare something to say should he reject your feelings.

Expect that the transition won’t be easy

If your best friend happens to be in love with you too, we have to prepare you for this huge transition. The base on which you establish a truly meaningful, precious friendship is a great basis for partnership. So, that gives you a head start. However, expect that switching from a friendship to a relationship will be awkward in a sense that starting over won't be.

Be strong!

Yes, it’s tough. We know that the thought of losing your best friend is unbearable, but this is your chance to find the one because he may be him! If you’re confident in your feelings and know that this is the right thing to do, go for it unapologetically. You’ll only regret it if you don’t. If you’re still too hesitant to go for it, here are some inspirational quotes from people who have done the same:

"My partner and I started out as good friends for years before we realized it was meant to be more! We've now been together for 3 years and are expecting our first baby!"

"I kissed my best friend of 7 years and it completely paid off. We have been together for 8 years and are getting married later this year!"

“I fell for a long-time friend. We have been married for 2 years!! If it works it's worth it.”

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Mariam Youssef

Growing up, I've always wanted to become so many things: a fashion designer, painter, singer, actress, and anything that revolves around art. It wasn't until I watched "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" that I realized that writing is the one thing that will enable me to write about all sorts of things and all types of art. Writing is one of the dearest things to my heart as it expresses who I am and what I stand for. My wardrobe is pink inked, fashion is my passion, beauty is my duty, and cats are my best furr-iends❤️


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