Whether you’re going out with your best friend on a date for the first time or you’ve been set up with someone by a member of your family, first dates always tend to make us nervous. Because you’re expected to be on your best behavior, it is difficult to be yourself around the other person. First of all, you don’t have to be your best self; you only need to be you! Showing the best behavior and manners in front of someone you may or may not get married to isn’t at all necessary. However, we will show you 7 tips to relieve some of that tension and shake off nerves before your first date, so keep reading.
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Choose a Familiar Spot
One of the best ways to help you control being nervous is to plan out your date or at least the location. Going somewhere that feels comfortable to you, like your favorite restaurant or coffee shop, will help set a calming foundation for your whole date. When you have no idea what to expect or where you’re heading, your anxiety will be provoked, which will make you less comfortable and more nervous.
Take a Buffer Before the Date
One of the biggest mistakes you can make when going on a first date is to go to the date venue right after you finish work. When you do that, there is a huge chance that your work persona is still in control so you might actually sound bossy and turn your date into an interview. Try to go for a calming walk or head to a coffee shop and have some green tea beforehand if going home isn’t an option.
Overthinking can make you more nervous than you could be. “How will the date go?” “Do I be myself or should I be on my best behavior?” These questions and more like them can cross your mind before your date. Don’t allow yourself to think of them because this can make you nervous and uncomfortable. The best thing to do is to distract yourself before the date by taking some time to choose your outfit or inviting your best friend over to relieve the tension and boost your self-confidence.
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