Love & Relationships

The series “Crystal”: Coping and Self-Care When Your Partner's Feelings Shift

Engy Elghannam
8/15/23, 11:30 AM

The series Crystal made us see how life has its twists and turns, and sometimes relationships encounter unexpected changes. If you find yourself in a situation where your partner's affections have shifted towards another person, it can be a challenging and emotional journey to navigate. While this may seem like uncharted territory, remember that you have the strength within you to handle this shift with grace and resilience. In this guide, we will explore strategies for managing your emotions, fostering self-care, and finding a way to move forward in the aftermath of such a heartbreaking experience. Remember, you are not alone, and there are steps you can take to support yourself during this transformative time.

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Steps to find your way forward after your partner's affection changes

Give Yourself Time to Process

Take a gentle pause and give yourself the gift of time to process everything. Your heart may be carrying a mix of emotions right now, from hurt to confusion to even a touch of anger. Know that it's absolutely okay to feel this way. In fact, it's a testament to the depth of your emotions. So, wrap yourself in understanding and allow these feelings to wash over you without any judgment. Just like a comforting embrace, let your heart heal at its own pace.


Have an open and honest conversation with your partner; express your feelings and concerns; and listen to their perspective as well. You have to seek clarity, as during the conversation, try to gain clarity on the nature of your partner's feelings for the other person. Are these feelings superficial, or do they indicate a deeper connection? Understanding this can help you make more informed decisions.

Assess the Relationship

Reflect on the overall state of your relationship. Is it still healthy and fulfilling for both of you? Consider whether this incident is a one-time crush or a symptom of deeper issues within the relationship.

To have a deeper understanding of your feelings, you have to ask yourself these questions:

Do you still feel like being in this relationship?

Do you have strong enough feelings to fix things?

Is your relationship still making both of you happy and content?

Once you've asked these questions, you'll likely have a good idea of what to do next. If the answer is a big 'maybe,' then it might be best to end things.

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Consider Professional Help

If these feelings are causing confusion, remember that you don't have to navigate them alone. Reaching out to a therapist or counselor can offer you a comforting place to talk about your emotions and choices, and they'll guide you through it with care.

Boundaries, boundaries, and boundaries….

Depending on the circumstances, you may need to establish boundaries with your partner and the person they have feelings for. This could include reducing or eliminating contact with that person and stopping yourself from stalking them while you work through your emotions.

Avoid Comparing Yourself to the Other Woman 

A mistake to steer clear of when he chooses someone else over you is to start comparing yourself with the other lady. Refrain from seeking flaws in your appearance. You are complete just as you are; he might not see it, but that doesn't diminish your worth. Furthermore, you are unique and distinctive in your own way.

Reinforce Your Self-Worth

 Asking questions like "Why did he prefer her over me?" or "Why does he love her and not me?" can swiftly lead to unhappiness. Instead, reassure yourself that you deserve love and admiration. Recite the affirmation, "I am worthy and more than enough!" as often as needed. This practice can uplift your mood.

Avoid Self-Blame

 When he selects another person instead of you, resist the urge to shoulder the blame. Breakups occur for various reasons, and it doesn't necessarily imply your fault.

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Give Yourself Permission to Move On

If you decide to end the relationship, understand that it's okay to do so. You deserve a partner who is fully committed to you and your relationship. Be aware enough to know that healing from such a situation takes time. Be patient with yourself as you process your emotions and make decisions about your future.

Focus on Self-Care

Take care of your emotional and physical well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you feel grounded. This can include spending time with friends and family, exercising, practicing mindfulness, or pursuing hobbies.



Engy Elghannam

Hii. This is me Engy Elghannam. Fashion has always been my passion; it always makes me happy to create my own unique style combination. Reading fills up my heart, I love reading all kind of books; I s...

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